Mom, We Need to Talk

Convincing an older person that he or she has problems can be a difficult task, but first you have to actually start that conversation. How do you start that important conversation?

If the person is mentally clear, include him or her in decisions. If you suspect confusion, have the person’s doctor check mental status at the next medical appointment. A level of dementia could mean you have to make some of those decisions. If there is a serious personal or financial risk, you may have to intervene, even if the person is mentally clear.

If you bully your way into the conversation you will probably lose. Instead, try to open up a non-threatening dialogue. Suggest that certain changes would be a favor to you. Tell the person you’re worried about him or her living independently and you want them to be safe.

If it is not an emergency situation, take time to reconnect with him or her before introducing the change. It is important to listen to the person’s point of view, worries, troubles and day to day news. Join him or her in activities that make them happy. Go to plays or concerts; play mahjong. Connect with them on their level of happiness and before introducing change.

If these tactics aren’t effective, make sure these problems are on the list of items to discuss at the next doctor’s visit. Phone the office in advance or fax your concerns before the appointment. By letting the physician do the prescribing you should be able to avoid an argument.

If a doctor tells an older person he or she needs a care provider or assistance, they are much more likely to do it. Doctors are often seen as the experts by the elderly and a doctor’s say so, still carries some weight.

The team at Approved Home Health is ready to offer assistance when you need help caring for your mom, dad or other loved one. Call us today at 941-870-8740 for a complimentary nursing evaluation.